Sobanukirwa aho gukuna ku bakobwa byavuye imiziro; akamaro ndetse n’inama .

Sobanukirwa aho gukuna ku bakobwa byavuye imiziro; akamaro ndetse n’inama .

Abakobwa-abagore benshi bamaze iminsi batwandikira batubaza ibigendanye no guca imyeyo. N’ubwo twari twarabyanditseho , bibaye ngombwa ko twongera kubigarukaho . Iyi nkuru irabiva imuzingo.

1.INKOMOKO

Gukuna cyangwa Guca imyeyo mu yindi mvugo ni umwe mu mihango yo mu muco nyarwanda yo hambere ndetse ikorwa n’umubare muto w’abakobwa b’iki gihe tugezemo. N’ubwo abanyarwanda bazi ko ari umwihariko wabo ,hari ibindi bihugu bigira uyu muhango,aha twavuga: Repuburika Iharanira Demokarasi ya Congo,Zimbabwe,Sudani,Afurika y’Epfo n’ibindi bihugu biherereye muri iki gice cy’Afurika,Benin.

Impamvu gukuna byiswe guca imyeyo ni uko akenshi iki gikorwa cyakorwaga n’abakobwa babaga bagiye guca imyeyo yo gukubuza. Si buri mukobwa wese wakoraga uyu muhango. Umukobwa wese wabaga ageze mu kigero cy’ubwangavu yagombaga gukuna.

2.IMIZIRO

Mu gihe bakunaga ari benshi buri wese yagomba kugira ibikunisho bye. Cyaraziraga guha undi ku bikunisho wizaniye kuko aba agutwaye imishino ndetse akagutanga no kugwiza bikakuzinga. Cyokora ariko mwashoboraga gufashanya babiri babiri umwe agakuna mugenzi we ku mpungenge zo gutinya kwibabaza!

Cyaraziraga kwicara ku zuba mu gihe cyo gukuna. Iyo aho bakuniraga habaga hari izuba, wariteraga umugongo kugira ngo ugwize vuba kandi ntirigutwarire ibintu.

Nta mukobwa wakuna akenyeye uruhu rwe.
Kera umukobwa wabaga atarakunnye iyo yabimenyaga byamuteraga ipfunwe ndetse bikanamubabaza cyane, akumva ahari wenda ntacyo bimaze gushaka niba atarakunnye, kuko abandi akenshi bamucaga intege bamubwira ko bazamusenda, cyangwa bazamukubita intosho ishyushye mu maguru, n’indi myizerere ko nyirabukwe yashoboraga kumushyiramo ivu, n’ibindi by’urucantege.
Yahoraga asuherewe rimwe uwo mutwaro akawugereka kuri nyina cyangwa bakuru be bakabaye barabimuganirije, yaba ntabo afite agahora ahangayitse kugeza n’ubwo atangira kugerageza kubikora bitagishobotse.

3.AKAMARO

Abakobwa bo ha mbere bakoraga uyu muhango mu rwego rwo kuzizihira abagabo babo mu mibonano mpuzabitsina. Ikindi byabamariraga ni ukurinda ko hari umwanda wakwinjira mu gitsina(Vagin cyangwa Rutezo mu Kinyarwanda). Nta myenda y’imbere(Amakariso) bagiraga. Kuri ubu ababikora baba bashaka kubahiriza umuco wa ba sogokuruza ndetse no kuzaryohereza umugabo mu gihe batera akabariro ku rugo.

4.INAMA

Uyu muhango wakorwaga nkuko twabibonye wakorwaga n’abakurambere. Imyumvire yabo yari uko bifasha mu gihe cy’imibonanano mpuzabitsina.Bikaba kandi byabafashaga kubona umwambaro wo gukinga ku gitsina. Kuri ubu abagore babasha kugusobanurira uyu muhango ni mbarwa. Ni umuco ugenda ucika n’ubwo hari abakibikora.

Inama nakugira :

Niba uri umukobwa-umugore ukaba utaraciye imyeyo wikwiheba. Kuryoherwa mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina biva mu mutwe, gutegurana neza, Uburyo mubikoramo(positions), kuba mwishimiranye nta bibazo biri hagati yanyu.. ntabwo uburyohe buva kukuba imishino yawe ari miremire imeze nk’umuryango kuri rutezo(Vagin).

Kuri ubu kandi abagabo benshi ntibabiha agaciro cyane. Hari n’abatabikunda rwose bikundira igitsina cy’umwimerere. Sinabura kuvuga ko hari abo binyura ariko kudakuna ntibivuga kutaryoherwa mu gihe cy’imibonano mpuzabitsina.

Impamvu yo kutishima hagati y’abashakanye yashakirwa hagati yabo aho gushakirwa ku guca cyangwa kudaca imyeyo.
Kudaca imyeyo ntibibuza umugore kugira amazi (kunyara)nkuko bamwe babyemera. Icyo umenye kandi wungutse ni ubumenyi: ko byabagaho n’uko byakorwaga.

Niba hari abo ubyumvana ukumva ucitse intege ko umugabo yazakwanga, shyira umutima mu gitereko. Kereka nuhura n’umugabo waryamanye n’abagore benshi akaba hari aho yabibonye bikamunyura naho ubundi ntibyagusenyera.

Niba wumva ushaka gukora uyu muhango wo guca imyeyo nakugira inama yo kubyitondamo. Isi aho igeze nta muntu wapfa kwizera ngo agukorere uyu muhango cyangwa awugusobanurire uko ubyifuza. Kuri ubu indwara z’ibyorezo zabaye nyinshi, ubuhemu, kutabika ibanga…Imiti n’ibyatsi byakoreshwaga biragoye kubona .

uwabigusobanurira cyangwa ngo uhite uyibona igihe uba nko mu mugi runaka. Gukurakuza byakorwaga n’abari ba kera kuri ubu bifatwa nko kwikinisha.
Ushobora rero gukukirwamo n’umuco wo kumva wishakiye kuryamana n’abo muhuje igitsina(Lesbiennes). Ushobora kwegera umubyeyi wawe ukamubaza niba hari icyo abiziho cyangwa nyogosenge mubanye neza kandi mwumvikana. Gusa icyiza wabyihorera nta nka waba uciye amabere.